Counselor Bhupendra Jain Releases Revolutionary Marriage Guide “Before the Seven Vows” Through Evincepub Publishing

Evincepub Publishing announces the release of “Before the Seven Vows: Conversations Every Couple Should Have Before Marriage” by relationship counselor and writer Bhupendra Jain. This groundbreaking guide offers a structured, psychology-based approach to finding compatible life partners, addressing a critical gap in Indian relationship literature.

With divorce rates climbing in urban India and countless couples struggling with compatibility issues that could have been identified before marriage, Jain’s book arrives at a crucial moment. Drawing from over six years of counseling experience and having personally guided more than 500 clients through relationship challenges, the author presents a practical framework that works equally well for both arranged and love marriages.

About the Author: A Unique Blend of Experience and Expertise

Bhupendra Jain brings a distinctive combination of professional expertise and personal insight to this work. As a counselor specializing in relationship guidance, he has conducted hundreds of seminars and webinars, helping individuals navigate the complex journey of finding the right life partner. His clients consistently share overwhelmingly positive feedback, crediting him with bringing clarity and confidence to their relationship decisions.

What sets Jain apart is his personal journey. His own four-and-a-half-year search for a life partner, which culminated in marriage to Soma, his “perfect life partner,” provides authentic, ground-level understanding of the challenges faced by modern Indians seeking marriage. “Without my wife, I wouldn’t have been able to become a trainer or complete my master’s degree in Psychology, and I’d never have been able to write this book,” Jain acknowledges in the book’s dedication. “I was motivated to write this book only because I married my perfect life partner.”

Professionally, Jain works as a technical instructor in an IT company, bringing analytical thinking and systematic problem-solving approaches to emotional and relationship counseling. This unique blend of technical precision and emotional intelligence permeates the book’s framework.

Beyond his professional life, Jain is a traveler, seasoned trekker, and adventure lover who embraces life fully and passionately. This zest for life translates into his counseling philosophy – encouraging people to approach the marriage search not with fear, but with excitement and confidence.

The Book’s Revolutionary Approach

“Before the Seven Vows” takes a refreshingly neutral stance in the often-polarized debate between arranged and love marriages. “The success of a marriage doesn’t depend on how it started,” explains Jain. “Rather, it depends on the understanding, love, compassion, and trust between the couple.”

The book is structured in four comprehensive parts:

Part I examines how Indian marriages have evolved from past to present, helping readers understand changing social dynamics around caste restrictions, family types, gender roles, and marriage expectations.

Part II identifies common mistakes made by both youngsters and parents during partner searches, emphasizing how communication gaps create unnecessary conflicts and poor decisions.

Part III provides psychological tools and frameworks for preparation, including the innovative “BJ’s Framework of Priorities” that helps readers distinguish between primary (P1), secondary (P2), and substitute (P3) priorities in their lives.

Part IV forms the book’s core – a detailed guide to conducting marital meetings with specific questions, strategic sequencing, and interpretation guidance.

The Priority Framework: A Game-Changing Tool

At the heart of the book lies Jain’s “BJ’s Framework of Priorities,” which addresses a fundamental truth: most relationship conflicts arise from mismatched priorities that were never discussed. The framework helps readers identify whether family, career, money, or other factors constitute their primary goals, and how to communicate these priorities effectively.

“Everyone has their own set of P1, P2, and P3 priorities,” Jain explains. “Won’t it be better to have a life partner who knows about your priorities, is concerned about your goals, and will be ready to support you in achieving them?”

The framework also incorporates the R2FCD principle (Relationship-Responsibility-Family-Communication-Decision), emphasizing that marriage involves sharing responsibilities, prioritizing family, maintaining communication, and making decisions together.

Strategic Question System

The book’s most practical contribution is its comprehensive question categorization system, organizing hundreds of questions into six strategic categories: Must Ask, Good to Ask, Ask if Time Permits, Do Not Ask, Ask in Subsequent Meetings, and Ask Only if it Matters to You.

This system addresses the common challenge of limited time during marital meetings, ensuring couples cover critical compatibility factors first before moving to secondary topics.

Topics covered include icebreakers, building rapport, understanding priorities and expectations, assessing personality traits, checking attitudes toward others, discussing social circles, exploring family dynamics, evaluating career aspirations, addressing financial compatibility, examining spiritual and religious beliefs, inquiring about past relationships, discussing medical history, planning for children, and even addressing physical compatibility.

Tackling Taboo Topics

Unlike traditional marriage guides that avoid sensitive subjects, Jain’s book directly addresses topics many Indians hesitate to discuss: financial expectations, past relationships, family planning preferences, working after marriage, and physical compatibility.

“These conversations might be uncomfortable, but discovering incompatibility after marriage is far worse than having difficult conversations beforehand,” Jain emphasizes. The book provides tactful approaches to these sensitive discussions, with specific phrasing suggestions and psychological insights into why certain questions matter.

Special sections address gender-specific concerns, recognizing that despite societal progress, practical realities still differ for men and women in Indian marriages. Women find guidance on discussing surname changes, work-after-marriage expectations, and salary disparities, while men receive advice on supporting working wives, relocating for spouses’ careers, and sharing household responsibilities.

Real Stories, Real Impact

Throughout the book, Jain shares authentic experiences from his counseling practice and personal search, including both successes and mistakes. These real-world examples transform abstract advice into relatable scenarios, helping readers understand practical application of the principles.

One particularly impactful story involves a couple whose marriage nearly ended because the husband concealed his hereditary medical condition, highlighting why honest pre-marriage discussions about health matters are crucial.

Publisher’s Perspective

Evincepub Publishing, known for releasing meaningful and practical books that address real-world challenges, recognizes the book’s potential impact. “With approximately 10 million marriages occurring annually in India, ‘Before the Seven Vows’ has the potential to transform how millions approach this life-changing decision,” notes a representative from Evincepub. “Bhupendra Jain has created a resource that combines psychological depth with practical wisdom in ways rarely seen in Indian relationship literature.”

Availability and Additional Resources

“Before the Seven Vows: Conversations Every Couple Should Have Before Marriage” is now available through major online and offline retailers across India.

Readers can access additional resources, articles, and guidance through Bhupendra Jain’s website (https://bhupendrajain.com) and blog (https://bhupendrajain.com/blogs). He also maintains active engagement with readers through LinkedIn (https://www.linkedin.com/in/bhupendra–jain/) and Instagram (@bhupendrajain_official).

A Message from the Author

“Our generation is blessed – we get a chance to talk to our spouse-to-be before marriage,” Jain reflects. “If you are able to choose your own life partner and be an active participant in the decision-making for your own marriage, it is best to use this opportunity wisely. One right decision can complete your life, but one wrong decision can finish it. Make this crucial decision with clarity, confidence, and compassion.”